On the same € 65.000 gross, a worker takes home roughly 6.896 € more per year in Germany than in Netherlands. That gap reflects the tax structure alone — before rent, healthcare, or savings behaviour come into play.
Housing is the first multiplier. Netherlands has very high rent pressure, while Germany has moderate rent pressure. That means part of the higher take-home in Germany can be absorbed by rent if you land in a major city.
Healthcare and pensions go in the opposite direction. Netherlands runs a public healthcare model — Mandatory private health insurance (~€140/month) with regulated coverage. Germany uses a public model — Statutory health insurance (~14.6% split with employer) gives full coverage. The country with lower take-home often shifts costs that the other country leaves to your private budget.
Net-of-everything, a relocation decision should weigh comprehensive welfare state in Netherlands against comprehensive welfare state in Germany, plus differences in pension capture, social safety nets, and city-level cost of living.